Wednesday, July 2, 2003

Sexual Abuse: Testimony

Opposing a Variety of Sex Offender Registry Laws and Two Strikes You're Out Laws, March 15, 1999

I'm Debbie Ingraham, and I'm an activist for Restorative Justice. I'm also a former litigant who filed an unsuccessful civil suit against a family member for incest, and a former victim advocate. I bring a 30 year personal perspective of "real life" experiences that come from living with the effects of sexual abuse.


I believe that the safety of today's children depends on our ability to fully utilize ALL the information that we have (not just the politically correct and easily fundable) in a way that includes both victim needs and community safety.

In developing legislation that is in the best interests of all children, we must go beyond today's anger and revenge, and look at child sexual abuse within the full context of a child victim's life and future relationships. We must also look at it from a prevention perspective.

The legislation before us today reminds me of myself when I first became aware of the prevalence and the effects of sexual abuse. As a New Jersey resident, I am well aware of Megan's Law, and initially I was certain that child protection and victim empowerment would be achieved solely through strong and punitive messages to sex offenders about confinement and community notification.

I was wrong. I began to see things differently several years ago when I realized that most sex offenders will never go to jail, those who do go to jail will most likely be released, and released without effective treatment, and that meant That there were many many sex offenders living in my neighborhood and yours. Megan's Law doesn't touch the majority of sex offenders.

It also discourages sex offenders who do wish to accept responsibility and who wish to seek help in order to change their behaviors from doing so. About this time I also met Wayne Bowers. I took a second look at Megan's Law when he began to explain how environments that publicly shame, and/or force offenders or potential offenders into silence can contribute to an offender or potential offender acting out. And I cared very much about preventing future abuse.

I now know that if we want to successfully protect children, and include the needs and desires of ALL victims of sex abuse, we must also understand why people offend, and how they gain and maintain control of offending behaviors. I support the containment of offenders who are a danger to children.

I support community notification "if" and "only if" it has been developed with input from recovering sex offenders and sex offender treaters, "if" it recognizes proportionality, "if" it is not limited to punishment, "if" it respects the privacy of victims and their families, "if" it encourages abusers to seek effective treatment, and "if" it educates the public about offender issues.

Notification that does not include these factors encourages a spirit of revenge and vigilantism, and frightens, the public, rather than protects the public. I oppose this legislation. It tries to solve problems without using important information about the person who created the problem in the first place and the people who can help prevent future abuse the recovering sex offender and sex offender treatment community respectively. Although I believe that "Pedophilia Cannot Be Legislated or Punished Away,"

I also recognize that punishment and litigation surely follows behavior that is deemed by law to be criminal. Punishment that includes public shaming and demonizing may feel good today, but it is short sighted, and too simplistic for a very complex problem. Over time, I realized that there would be an unanticipated ripple effect from the success stories that address sexual abuse through punishment only.

The ripple effect is, that when we stigmatize today's sex offenders, we make it more difficult for other offenders to admit to wrong doing and accept responsibility. I have a personal understanding of victim needs that will NEVER be met by punishment "only" of the offender.

I am peaceful and free today NOT because I filed a law suit, became a victim advocate, or tried to change laws but because I talked with a twice convicted sex offender, Wayne Bowers, and with clinicians like Dr. Berlin and Geral Blanchard, who treat sex offenders. If the Kansas civil commitment law had been in effect in 1989, Wayne would have been a likely candidate. He would not have had access to the treatment he received at Johns Hopkins Hospital's Sexual Disorders Clinic under Dr. Fred Berlin. This treatment allowed him to get control of his life. Wayne then went on to educate the public by modeling changed behavior as a result of effective treatment.

His public example encourages other sex offenders to seek treatment, and THAT contributes to the creation of safer communities. In this case, a civil commitment law may have deprived me of one of the most valuable healing experiences of my life. I found peace when I was able to pose questions to Wayne, and get honest and open answers with no excuses mad about why someone sexually abuses a child, why they repeat the behavior, why they don't stop, why they don't apologize, and why they can hurt a child sometimes, and be kind at other times.

I learned that it is the treatment of sex offenders not punishment, that leads to validation, victim empathy, apology and restitution to victims. I learned that "my" side of the story was not the only side of the story; and most important, that my experiences with a sex offender did not make a complete picture. And I realized that the media's portrayal to date, of sex offenders is DEFINITELY not the complete picture.

I realized that I needed to make peace with the demon, not be a warrior for causes. I needed to understand that the demon was not a person, the demon was behaviors. All the punishment in the world would not bring me the kind of peace and freedom that I found from getting the answers to those questions.

This legislation fails to address three important areas that pertain to prevention, intervention, and victim empowerment. It fails to recognize that if the threat and length of confinement is not proportionate to the offense, and if community notification includes public embarrassment only and does not include offender support, it will discourage others from seeking help in order to stop offending behaviors; and it will discourage others who are on the edge of offending from asking for the help they need in order to not cross legal lines.

It fails to take into consideration that family members and friends are often the first to become aware of child abuse. As we encourage others to confront THEIR family members and friends, who might also be child abusers, we must be sure that notification laws are ones that encourage them to act on behalf of an abused child, by reporting their loved one or friend.

Would these laws encourage you to report a loved one of yours who is also a child abuser? And for those of you who are parents, would these laws encourage you to report your child if he or she is abusing another child? It fails to take into consideration that family members and friends are often the first to become aware of child abuse. As we encourage others to confront THEIR family members and friends, who might also be child abusers, we must be sure that notification laws are ones that encourage them to act on behalf of an abused child, by reporting their loved one or friend.

Would these laws encourage you to report a loved one of yours who is also a child abuser? And for those of you who are parents, would these laws encourage you to report your child if he or she is abusing another child? If we create climates that discourage offenders from admitting wrong doing, we will also be denying victims who want the opportunity to confront offenders, express anger, be validated and work toward restoration, the opportunity to do so. This legislation fails to recognize adults like me who have come full circle from anger, silence and shame, to now having a desire to repair and re-build, rather than divide and conquer.

I do not wish to impose my journey on others, but nor do I wish to have my journey hindered or left out of the discussions. This legislation does not create a place for me and others like me, to pass on what we've learned in a way that might make another victim's journey a little easier, or protect a child from harm.

In the spirit of finding healing solutions and recognizing the needs of all victims, I encourage everyone in this room to do as I have done talk with a recovering sex offender, a clinician who treats offenders, and attend a group meeting of recovering sex offenders.Perhaps it is better said by the following: "Truth is not to be found inside the head of an individual person, it if born between people collectively search for truth, in the process of their dialogic interaction." Bakhtin.

By Deborah Ingraham Before the Massachusetts Criminal Justice Committee March 15, 1999, Opposing a Variety of Sex Offender Registry Laws and Two Strikes You're Out Laws, March 15, 1999.

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